Asking Eric: I want to take trips with only my husband and children, tell me about this news in (https://www.chicagotribune.com/2026/09/17/asking-eric-i-want-to-take-trips-with-only-my-husband-and-children/)
17-09-2026
In this installment of the advice column “Asking Eric” (by R. Eric Thomas), a reader writes in dealing with a common family boundary dilemma: they want to take vacations exclusively with their nuclear familyjust their husband and their childrenrather than always including extended family (such as in-laws, parents, or siblings) who may assume an open invitation or expect group travel.
Eric typically advises that it is entirely reasonable, healthy, and normal for a nuclear family to desire dedicated bonding time without the broader family circle. His guidance generally emphasizes:
Setting Clear, Gentle Boundaries: You do not need an elaborate excuse or permission to plan trips solely for your household. Being upfront well before travel plans are solidified helps manage expectations.
Framing It Positively: Focus on the need for immediate-family bonding and routines with the kids rather than framing it as excluding or avoiding extended relatives.
Offering Alternatives: Reassuring extended family that they are valued by suggesting other, specific ways to spend time together (like weekend dinners, day outings, or dedicated shared events) can soften any perceived sting of not being included on every vacation.